Without going into huge amounts of detail, here's the story.
I'm part of a group that meets regularly; I've been part of it since its inception, several years back. It's purpose is not super practical, but it has always been fun to be part of. And we're all friends.
However I'm no longer having fun. Several factors associated with being part of this group are currently creating stress in my life, and I've become rather cranky. Not pleasant for me, and no fun for the people I'm with.
The big problem for me?? Due to my unique-to-the-group skill set, the group does not function
Hence my conundrum.
On the one hand, why should I spend time and effort doing something that's causing me stress?
On the other hand, am I justified in causing others to be unable to do something that they love?
Where do you draw the line between looking after yourself, and serving others?